How To Own The Room By Viv Groskop

by | Apr 16, 2019

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In How To Own The Room, Viv Groskop explores how you can show up and own your space and in a way that is true to you. You don’t have to be the funniest, most charismatic or wisest person to claim your space. But you do have to claim your space. And the good news is, creating impact is a completely learnable skill.

“People will take their cue from you. That’s it. If you act like you belong in the room, people will believe you do. If you act like your opinion matters, others will too.” Bill Clinton’s press secretary, Evelyn Lieberman

Viv’s book is full of wise words on how to deal with the mind gremlins that can make this hard. Where it challenged me most was to think about how many opportunities to own the room I too easily pass up.  So TED has not called yet, but then they don’t – you apply by submitting a video of you already “owning the room”. There are no TED fairy godmothers watching in the wings to invite you to the next event. I quite like giving talks when I am asked, but I don’t actively seek out the opportunities. Why am I waiting? Viv encourages the reader to see the everyday opportunities that are already there to practice owning the room. Without a plan, it’s easier to sit back.

Here’s my list:

  • Use video on my social feeds related to work – two a month
  • Create two videos about my Home of Wants Coaching Programme and 9 Types of Us Training
  • Attend networking events and proactively present my 60-second elevator pitch
  • When attending talks, ask a question
  • Write a list of subjects that I can talk about.

Talking about topics, I frequently share Caroline Goyder’s (a, if not the, leading voice coach) technique when I am working with clients, to help them prepare in advance what they are going to say. If you are a reflector, or find it hard to put your voice into larger meetings, then doing the following prep beforehand can go a long way. And if you suspect you perhaps talk too much and struggle to land your points, it works equally well. It’s a 5-step process:

  • Headline: What is your angle on the subject matter? Write it in 1-2 sentences.
  • Point 1: State the point simply that supports the headline. Say the biggest point first.
  • Point 2: State the second point second.
  • Point 3: State the third biggest point, if needed – you may only need two points.
  • Wrap: Sum up. Tell them what you have told them, with a twist, or a new perspective, or a question.

As Viv says in her sign-off, the only way to get better is to do it. Thinking is not your friend here, but giving it a go most certainly is.

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This is part of the One Point series of blog posts. If you ever finish reading a book, decide you love it, then promptly forget about it… that makes two of us. This blog captures one insight from each non-fiction book that I have read and enjoyed, to act as a conversation starter and a prompt for now and the future. Each post is not a summary of the book, and may not even include the main thrust of it, but they will feature an interesting point that you can quickly digest, bookmark and maybe even share. Check out One Point in Categories.

 

 

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